time travel

Don’t remind me that this isn’t a sci-fi blog. I know that and I promise you guys I’m not trying to impose upon you my insane obsession with all things Star Wars. NOPE, NOT YET. *laughs nervously* A few days ago, my sister and I watched About Time starring Rachelle McAdams and  Domhnall Gleeson. It reminded me of a cliché question always asked during get-to-know-you activities, ‘What would you do if you could travel back in time?’

For some reference on time travel, here’s a video of a recent on YouTube, charlieissocoollike, explaining time travel in the coolest way only he knows how.

(This entry operates on the first kind of time travel- the Back to the Future model- where you can alter specific actions made to create a ‘better’ outcome.)

Let’s say for this entry’s sake that time travel is as common as a bus ride. Would I buy a ticket?

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To be completely honest, I MIGHT.

Regret is a powerful motivation. It haunts even the most accomplished men. I only know of very few people who can whole-heartedly say they’ve had zero regrets. For the rest of us, yes including yours truly, we know how regret has the power to suffocate us in the most terrifying of nightmares our subconscious can command while it paralyzes us during the most uncomfortable times the day. That fear plus the curiosity to answer our many ‘What Ifs’ could most likely skyrocket the sales of time travel tickets if  there were any.

So yeah, as a human tendency, I might consider it but…

I believe there is never a perfect version of any moment in a man’s life, only a real one. And in reality, you will always find some flaw, something you could do better or something you shouldn’t do altogether unless you accept that the imperfection of that moment is what makes it uniquely yours. We’re wired to be insatiable and the chance to fuel our insatiability is what encumbers our ability to grow as people and appreciate life the way we chose to live it, now and at any point in the past. As if living in the past without time travel isn’t destructive enough.

It’s like what one of my mentors in writing once told me, Honey, at some point you’re gonna have to put down the pen. Trust that YOUR STORY IS WORTH READING NOT REGARDLESS BUT BECAUSE OF THE MISTAKES.

I could argue the more expected ‘there is a great design’ notion, one where your action isn’t just your own but is a part of a bigger, grander scheme that affect’s another’s result as much as your own. I’d save that for another time though. For now, I’ll leave you with something to ponder on.

If time travel is a possibility would you do it? 

the fault in (most) our lives

Last night I contemplated rereading The Fault in Our Stars by John Green after rushing through every page the first time I read it. I will not tell you how many times I’ve read that book for that will divulge how much more free time I truly have in my hands which in friend talk means they can drag me out to party or do ‘COOL’ stuff- whatever that means. *wink*

Needless to say, my yearning for more Augustus Waters won over my body’s cries for sleep so I found my nook and started focusing on the words in front of me. After breezing through some chapters, I caught myself pausing at every highlighted text. It wasn’t as if I haven’t read them before because I have, a few times- okay, a dozen of times- but I can’t help myself. The highlights seem to DEMAND attention, the same way pain needs to be felt and emotions expressed. So I allowed myself to linger on those words.

That made me ask, when was the last time I fully took in an accomplishment? When was the last time I relished achieving a goal after a long battle getting there? Right, ages ago. I’m always in a hurry, rushing through one thing I could tick off my checklist to another that I couldn’t even be bothered for five seconds to say hey that was probably the highlight of my week. I did good.

I don’t want being busy or running around to be my  life although I guess I’m pretty good at that- a lot of us are. That shouldn’t define us. It could describe our schedule but not define who we are. Sometimes we don’t have to do so much to be fulfilled. We only have to pay close attention and notice how much we’ve already done then give ourselves the occasional pat in the back. God knows we busy bodies deserve it.

 

 

such a thing as too personal

Lately I’ve noticed more and more people warming up to the idea of affection. Hugging someone or kissing someone on the cheeks are more acceptable now than it was 5 to 10 years ago- which, in my opinion, is good because I love hugs. BUT for some people it just isn’t as welcome so this entry is all about drawing the line between what’s invasive of another’s personal space- physical or otherwise- and what isn’t.

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A few weeks ago I was sitting on a train, minding my own business when this middle-aged woman bursts into a full on confrontation about how close to her I was sitting. To be honest, I don’t know what she means. It’s a friggin’ public transport for  Pete’s sake. Does she want me to jump off the train? How far really is ‘not too close’? If there’s one thing I learned though about confrontational and irritable people, it’s never to engage them on a petty matter. The trouble you’ll get into is much worse than the gratification you’ll earn for telling them off so this little lady marched herself a few meters away from her and stood for the next 3 stops.

It did get me to thinking though. How do you really qualify personal space? Physically, does it mean you can’t stand a feet from another person? How about in lines then or public transports or concerts, do you still have to follow that rule? If yes then that is a really impractical way to live and quite frankly, a bit sad. If not, then is it solely based on context then? There are places where you have to keep your distance and there are those where you don’t have to. There are situations, moods even, when you can allow a hug or a greeting and there are situations where you just randomly tell someone sitting right beside you on the train off.

I think the latter makes more sense because majority of people understand that human contact is inevitable in a populated world which means that Ms. Give-Me-My-Personal space  must be a having a meltdown to snap at me like that. So here’s my advice if ever this happens to you, calm down and let it go. Trust me, she knows she was being silly but even if she never realizes it, a seat beside someone who can go off like that is never worth it. *wink*

paperbacks for the laid back

And yes, it’s the cheesiest, most unoriginal title anyone in the history of blogging has ever come up with and it doesn’t even rhyme but that’s what happens if you insist on blogging past midnight. I was just a bit excited to put this up so I thought I’d do it now. I’ll be listing book recommendations for bookworms like me since I’ve been getting a few requests. This aren’t necessarily the newest books but I’ve read them recently and liked them or would wanna read them soon.

1. Faults In Our Stars by John Green 

-By the way, the trailer for this book’s movie franchise was just released a week or 2 weeks ago and it has had really good feedback. My suggestion, grab a copy now before the movie gets released.

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2. Revenge Wears Prada by Lauren Weisberger

3. Family Life by Akhil Sharma

-13 year in the making, this book is a bit of a heavy read so prep your tissues in advance.

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4. Lost for Words by Edward St. Aubyn

– For people like me who obsess over literary prize winners, this will be an enticing read but even for those who aren’t as acquainted, this will describe what goes on in the world of literary writing and recognition with enough humor and wit.

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5. Divergent by Veronica Roth

-This is the first installment to Roth’s trilogy. The general feel of the book may remind you of the popular dystopian book series Hunger Games or Maze Runner but this book has it’s own merits which you’ll definitely find out when you start flipping through the pages.

questions you can’t answer (or wish you never have to)

My sister is a big fan of danisnotonfire, a quirky Youtuber who chronicles random things about him, his life and his experiences. She convinced me (and by convince, I mean she did not stop asking until I finally gave in) to watch a couple videos with her and much as I did not expect it, I absolutely fell inlove with his channel. His humor, wit and in your face, close to no filter delivery is refreshing- a huge difference from many mainstream hosts who have producers and PR people to worry about.

One of his videos gave me an idea. I thought it would be fun to do a questions-you-can’t-answer post. Basically these are questions from some sites (links I’ll put below) that according to Dan are the worlds greatest and most oh-god-stupid mysteries. I cannot promise very serious responses as I can be sarcastic sometimes so you decide which ones are which. LOL. Plus I wanted to inject a bit more fun and spontaneity on my blog. *wink*

Here goes.

1. What is the color of the mirror? Where?

2. If you accidentally ate your tongue what would it taste like? Blood

3. If you were a goldfish, why? What#icanteven

4. Do fish sleep? You can tell by the fish’s eye bags. (I know, I know. I have a limp sense of humor. Just go with me on this one post.)

5. If god created everything, who created god?#existentialcrisis But this is obviously a logical fallacy  (circular reasoning to be exact) and my 6th grade English teacher would kick my arse if I didn’t call this out. 

6. If a man alone in the woods said something would a woman still say he was wrong? I’ll ask my mom and dad. #marriage #makeitwork 

7. Can bald people have hairline fractures?

8. Why are both of Spongebob’s parents round like sea sponges while he is square like a kitchen sponge? He’s adopted?

9. In libraries, do they put the bible in the fiction or non-fiction section? Opening a can of worms eh(Seriously though, at our uni it’s the humongous book in the middle of the floor. You can’t miss it.)

10. Why did Sally sell seashells on the seashore when you can just pick them up anyway? Oh my dad would LOVE her.

11. If you decide that you’re indecisive, which one are you? UH, haven’t made my mind up yet. 

That’s about it for now. I hope you don’t crucify my responses and just find them as amusing as I do. By the way the links for the questions below are typed in below.

http://www.angelfire.com/ak2/intelligencerreport/questions.html

http://www.bored.com/crazythoughts/

And this is Dan’s channel just in case you wanted to watch his videos too.

http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGjylN-4QCpn8XJ1uY-UOgA

when you just don’t like the same things

Have you ever been in a relationship where you seem to like very different things but you’re sure you both still want it to work? It doesn’t have to be the romantic kind where your boyfriend wants to stay home and play Call of Duty all day despite your insistence that he accompany you to the mall because there’s a huge sale happening. But if that’s your case, it works too. Well, my dilemma is a bit less dramatic but not as easily rid of as breaking up with the guy because you clearly have nothing in common.

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What if it’s family? Surely, you can’t stop talking to your mom because she loves fashion and you don’t or you can’t really ignore your dad because every time he asks you to go fishing all you can think of is fish guts spilling all over you. How about if it’s a childhood friend who you want to keep because of everything you’ve been through but you can’t seem to find a common ground anymore? She likes parties and bars and spontaneous moments of craziness while your more laid back, stay-in-the-coffee-shop kinda gal. What do you do then?

How do you save that kind of relationship when the things that they wanna do bore the hell out of you and vice versa? 

Okay, so I’ve been in many situations like this and my first rule is to always try. As long as it isn’t anything illegal or immoral, I’ll try. My other go-to solution is get them to try what you love. They might actually enjoy it so problem solved. But what do you do when neither of them work? Do you pretend that you like whatever it is that they insist you do together and hope that maybe one day you’ll grow to love it? Or do you decide to go your separate ways because you can’t seem to agree on anything anyway?

When you agree to disagree on almost everything, will a relationship still work?

an anniversary post

It’s been a year since I first started blogging. YES, one whole year.

If I could tell the year ago me one thing, one advice about blogging, I’d say it gets better. To be completely honest, my first few entries were probably the most difficult to write (if they were as difficult to read- sorry). They weren’t close to argumentative or were well-researched, in fact they were personal experiences I care deeply about like my weight, overcoming self image issues, childhood memories, growing up very independent, friends, losing people I love, sacrifices, social acceptance and so much more.

Writing those entries was grueling but the real challenge was clicking publish. Watching your thoughts, feelings, secrets form words on the screen is one thing. Having someone you’ve probably never met read and judge you for it, that’s an entirely different story. Over time, with the help of your likes and your constructive comments, I got through it. I found enough confidence in myself to keep writing and see this blog through- another achievement (finally sticking to something).

Thanks guys. I owe you big time. 

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A big hug to all those who read, liked, commented, subscribed and followed my blog